Kathy and I have a simple formula for realizing our dreams. It works really well as we pursue our vision of living a “home free” life of world travel. We used this formula for realizing our current dream of spending a year traveling the U.S.A. visiting national parks, African American historical sites and other spots of interest.
The first step is gratitude. We give thanks to the Universe and to all the ancestors, angels, bodhisattvas, Gods and Goddesses for the abundance in our lives. This practice centers and grounds us in a place of openers and trust.
Next comes intention setting. For us this involves lots of talking, prayer and meditation. We finally came to the clear intention of buying a used RV and traveling North America for a year or so.
The next step is crucial. ACTION! Having formed the intention we began to move towards it. We (Kathy especially) did lots of research while we were still in Asia. What kind of RV? How to buy a used RV? How to live full time in an RV? We budgeted, planned, watched videos and read lots of articles and blogs. We waffled between class A or C, we debated about length, year, models and mileage. By the time we boarded the plane to come home, we had decided to trust the Universe to lead us to the RV that would be right for us.
And It did! We landed in Atlanta, Georgia and began our search. We looked at many RVs. Some were too small, some too big. Many were out of our price range. A few were poorly cared for. We found “Winnie” in Mobile, Alabama. I knew it was ours when the beautiful and brown teenaged boy came out to show her to us. Our 1994 Minnie Winnie DL model Winnebago is clean, well cared for and has low mileage. It’s an oldie but a goodie, perfect for us. Right now it’s at the mechanic’s where they are getting it road ready.
We can’t wait to take Winnie out on the road and to share more adventures with you!
How about you? How do you realize your dreams? Also, we’d love to hear your suggestions of spots to visit this year and please follow us and let us know if we are in your area. We’d love to see you.
Kathy and I arrived in Atlanta, Georgia on Wednesday, the 13th. We are now in Montgomery, Alabama with our dear friend, Lecia. This morning we watched 13th, Ava DuVernay’s study of the links between slavery and the US penal system. This documentary was sobering and heartbreaking. I decided to take a walk and shake of some of the sadness I was feeling. Lecia’s Montgomery neighborhood is beautiful and historic. Enjoy these pictures but do make time to watch 13th. You may need your own walk after.
In one week Marci and I will board a plane for a twenty-four hour flight back to the US. We haven’t been home in a year. As a matter of fact, we celebrated our one year on the road anniversary two weeks ago. We haven’t really yearned to return to the States. We of course look forward to seeing our family and friends but we dread the “noise” of the United States. Those conversations about who is winning as if speaking about a horse race instead of a yet still undecided national election. Or the seemingly daily shootings at schools or during unnecessary police encounters. And the ever-present advertising of fast food, fast cars, fast acting nasal spray. Everything wants to be fast in America. But Marci and I have embraced slow. We eat slow. Our food is prepared after we order it. We move slow. Most days we never use a car. We travel slow.
But we do have a plan. The fact is the US is much more than all those dreads, that have recently caused both of us to moan and doubt our ability to cope as individuals and as a happily married unit. For us, the United States is a place of unbelievable beauty. We have traveled to the Grand Canyon and Glacier National Parks. And as we find every time we travel anywhere on earth, the US is place of astonishing kindness. Like the apparently homeless woman we met a a rest stop who shared her homemade jam inspiring us to share our morning coffee. We three had a breakfast picnic before Marci and I drove onward to eventually meet some friends in New Orleans for Essence Fest.
There is without a doubt a system of racist policies and racist actions in our country, the results of which slash our hearts. But we decided we were not going to allow those things to keep us from enjoying the beauty. So we are buying an RV and touring the country for a year or so, visiting National Parks, museums and chatting with women of a certain age about their relationship to our country.
This trip home is not the end of our international travels. North America is just another continent and once we are ready we will move on. But while we are home we will explore America from a black, queer and elder perspective. These things inform our choices and inspire us. We know we want to attend several women festivals throughout the year beginning with one of our favorites the NIA Gathering. We also want to visit Underground Railroad sites. We’ve left lots of free time in our schedule so that we can take suggestions and move slowly and boundlessly.
We invite your suggestions and hope you will continue to follow our travels as we return home.
If you had a year to travel North America where would you go? What would be your first three stops. Please share in the comments.
Due to the generosity and kindness of our lovely friend, Wanvisa, Kathy and I have had two opportunities to visit the jungle just outside of Chiang Mai. The area is known as Mae Tang and our friend owns property there which she is developing into a detox and rehabilitation center.
I will be sharing more about her center as the opening approaches but for now I just wanted to express my deep gratitude for the experience.
The Mae Tang Jungle is a short lovely hour’s drive outside of Chiang Mai but an entirely different energy and feel. On the way we saw the rushing Mae Tang River and lots of elephants. There are no city noises just the sounds of insects chirping, birds cawing and the wind blowing through the trees and plants that abound.
There is a lovely and peaceful stream where you can yet your feet or take a walk in.
The buildings are all in traditional Lanna style and blend in perfectly with the jungle surroundings.
The floors and much of the structures are made from reclaimed wood. Truly a blessing of building up rather than tearing down.
There are wonderful trails for hiking.
Beautiful flowers and plants are all around the property.
Wanvisa had lots of activities planned for her guests including a clay workshop (that’s Kathy’s bird and my dolphin).
You can see from Wanvisa’s beautiful smile what a big and open heart she has. I know she will have much success with this endeavor and look forward to sharing more about it soon.
Today is exactly one year since we embarked on our dream of ‘home free’ travel. It has been an amazing adventure of serendipity and blessings. I am writing this post and sharing these pictures with a lot of joy. However, there is sadness. In the past year, while not physically in the United States our hearts and minds have suffered. There have been more black lives taken than I can count or name. We cried for Philando Castile, Korryn Gaines, Freddy Gray and more. There have been several instances of massive gun violence, and deplorable political rhetoric and chicanery abound. We hear about these things and are wounded and often feel outraged.
On the other hand we have experienced a year free of fear of the police, we actually feel we can trust the police here to help us. We have seen Muslims, Christians, Hindus, Buddhists, Animists and Jews living in harmony. We have seen women, in hijab, getting educations, driving, and interacting freely with their friends. We have not listened to rumors, fear and rhetoric. We have gone and seen for ourselves. We acknowledge what a blessing and a privilege this year has been. The following pictures are our celebration of this year.
We set sail from the port of Seattle, Washington for 30 days at sea. It was a great way to slowly acclimate into our new lives. We were pampered cared for, had lots of time to relax and plan. We had several great stops along the way. We were the first cruise ship ever to stop at the Marshall Islands. It was wonderful having the school children come out to greet us. I really enjoyed our stop at Puerto Princessa, the Philippines and Kathy really related to this monk on Sarawak, Malaysia.
In Singapore, things got real. No more cruise ship to return to in the evenings. We were now on our own: meals, lodging, transportation. Singapore was much too expensive to stay more than a day but we loved the botanical garden there.
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia was our next stop. I knew absolutely nothing about Malaysia but immediately fell in love with this big, bustling, modern city. The harmonious diversity of Malaysia is so inspiring and the musical “Mud” is a celebration of this.
We enjoyed a brief (too brief) stay on the island of Pinang, Malaysia in the historic city of Georgetown.
On to Bangkok…big city, beautiful city but a little too crowded for me. I did love the very touristy floating market.
From Bangkok we enjoyed a train ride and brief stop at crazy Lop Buri, Thailand “monkey town”.
We then enjoyed a few days stay at the UNESCO World Heritage City of Ayutthaya. Amazing!
Chiang Mai, Thailand is where we first got to enjoy and experience the benefits of slower travel. Our first time around we were here over a month and it was great, especially the Yi Ping Festival.
Vietnam! I could put a gazillion pictures up of this marvelous country but this post is already going too long. It was an amazing month. We traveled by the Reunification Train from South to North. We visited Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon), Mui Ne, Da Nang, Hoi An, Hue, Hanoi and Ha Long Bay. Vietnam is a beautiful country both in natural beauty and in the strength and spirt of the people.
We returned to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia for a longer visit. We got to visit the Batu Caves and enjoy more of the city’s sights. Best public transportation anywhere!
We had a brief stay in the smaller city of Ipoh, Malaysia where we received a warm welcome at this Kwan Yin Temple.
Georgetown, Penang Island, Malaysia during Chinese New Year season was wonderful! Almost 6 weeks of festivities, fireworks, and fun.
Bali! A magical place of beautiful sights, people, food and spiritual blessings.
Yogyakarta, Java, Indonesia was another opportunity to explore beautiful sights and to meet lovely people.
Borobudur Temple, Java is another UNESCO World Heritage Site. We try to visit as many UNESCO sites as we can while traveling.
Jakarta, Indonesia
Jakarta, Java, Indonesia is a big, modern city and while not my favorite we did have a good positive experience there.
Back to Chiang Mai, Thailand just in time for Songkran ( Thai New Year) and the world’s largest water fight! Crazy fun!
Three hours from Chiang Mai we visited beautiful Chiang Rai and the white temple there. A lovely brief stay, especially because our friends Queen and Yardenna joined us.
Kuala Lumpur again, this time for a stay in the heart of Little India also known as Brickfields. Best food ever!
OMG! The People’s Republic of China was truly a dream come true. While somewhat challenging (crowds, language, culture) we got to experience amazing sights and time with my best friend, Lecia. Beijing, Xian, Hangzhou and Guangzhou are all amazing examples of modern China and opportunities to see ancient wonders.
After the hustle and bustle of China the peace and serenity of Chiang Mai was most welcome.
We most recently enjoyed a brief visit to the UNESCO World Heritage City of Melaka, Malaysia. A place we definitely want to explore more of.
We are currently back in Chiang Mai, Thailand for a few more weeks before returning home to the states. We are considering our options and feeling our feelings about what the next year will be : traveling North America? Returning to Southeast Asia? Or?????
No matter what, we trust that the love and compassion embodied by Kwan Yin and manifested by all your love and support will be with us. Thank you for letting me share my joy. Please share your joy with us. We’d love to hear about your past year and adventures and future plans.
On September 1, 2015 I stopped working. I had been at the same job (medical office manager) for over 32 years. My very wise mother-in-law, Ms Mary, said “Remember, retirement is not an activity.” She was concerned that I would be challenged by living a life that did not involve at least 8 hours, 5 days a week of work routine.
Much of this first year of retirement has been taken up with travel and sightseeing. However, because we choose to travel slowly and stay in one place for long periods I have found lots of time to ponder Ms Mary’s wisdom. Retirement is this great opportunity to find out what really matters to you, what you truly enjoy and for trying new things.
I discovered, after years of being an “early bird” how much I enjoy lazy mornings, coffee in bed and not leaving home until noon! I’ve reconnected with an old love, jewelry making, and found a new passion Pokémon Go!
Kathy has always loved computer gaming. Retirement allows lots of time for her to enjoy new and old games. We both love to read and delight in plenty of time for this passion.
We have lots of time for relaxing, television watching, etc but retirement has taught us the importance of getting outside every day, of moving our bodies and appreciating nature.
Another blessing of retired life is the time it affords for my spiritual practice. More time for silence, chanting, prayer, inspirational reading and for meditation. I have found a great website Insight Timer. It has greatly improved my meditation practice. Every time I finish a meditation session, it tells me how many other people on the site are meditating. This morning I meditated with 2203 people all over the world! There is a sharing and friends option, so I now have meditating friends on 5 continents.
So, in closing, I just want to say how very grateful I am for this retired life. I am very aware that it is a profound privilege that many people never get to enjoy. I am dedicating this post to the memory of another wise and wonderful mother-in-law, Etta Matt. She passed away at age 53, getting ready for her work day at the Motorola Factory.
How about you? If retired, what do you enjoy or are challenged by? If still working, what are your retirement plans? As always we welcome your comments, questions and suggestions.
One of the valid concerns people have when contemplating long term travel is what will they do about medical issues. We are not getting any younger although some of us may be healthier now than when we were young and much more foolish about our bodies. Health considerations, even if you are in the best of health will pop up during your travels.
Marci and I have spent a year in South-East Asia. This is a tropicalclimate filled with tropical diseases , like those in the old movies. And although Marci has not really gotten sick, I have suffered through unknown rashes and infections. The good news is I am fine. The great news is it cost me less than fifteen dollars to handle the most expensive health scare. That is for less than $15 I was completely cured of a skin infection I thought would send me home to the United States and my Mama’s loving house since we no longer have a house of our own.
The thing is health care just does not cost that much in other countries. I am not talking about democratic socialist nations of Europe although there too healthcare is much more affordable than the United States. I am talking for profit businesses that offer western trained doctors and if you prefer it western solutions and medicines. I have no preference. When I am sick, I just want to be well. The western solution to my skin problem would have cost closer to $100 dollars but that is still less than my deductible would have been at Kaiser and that is with Obama Care or the Affordable Care Act.
But the real stars of affordable healthcare are pharmacists. These women and men will look you over and prescribe the answer in a matter of minutes. I was on my way to have lunch when I thought I would show a pharmacist my itchy arm. He gave me a topical medicine to try for two dollars. Later that evening I had completely stopped scratching. Two days later my skin looked better than ever. It worked. And still have some medicine left over.
When I was in Spain I went to a pharmacist because someone told me to. I had terrible canker sores and could barely open my mouth not that I needed to, I didn’t then and still don’t speak Spanish, to my great regret. The pharmacist who didn’t speak English took one look inside my barely opened mouth figured out what I needed. He handed me a bottle while miming for me to rinse my mouth and gargle with it 6 times a day. I nodded and paid him. The next day I could talk and more importantly, smile without pain. A few days later I was back to my old chatting laughing self.
Pharmacist visits are faster and much less expensive when compared to going to the doctor or clinic. No waiting rooms means no waiting. Just explain your problem and let her figure out the cure. Eventhough Marci and I live in the shadow of an award winning hospital with an outpatient clinic, I always try the pharmacist first. So far so good.
There are few places where you will be unable to secure routine healthcare as you move through your adventure traveling across our beautiful planet. The price will vary mostly in line with the cost of living overall. The US notwithstanding. Keep a credit card handy. Consider travel insurance. Have a quick checkup and discussion with your home doctor. Then get on a plane. The world awaits, warts, canker sores, upset tummies and all. Enjoy.
Have you ever had to see a doctor on an international trip. Share your story with us in the comments. Thank you.
I was going to write this post a couple of weeks ago. The current climate in the states is one of political insanity, divisiveness, extreme gun violence, police brutality and murder. Many friends have shared with me their concerns and even fears about continuing to live in the U.S. I was going to write all about what a great place Chiang Mai, Thailand is for emigrating. Then a series of bombings occurred in Thailand. True, the bombings were in the far south and Chiang Mai is in Northern Thailand, but still bombs exploded, people were injured, someone died! I came face to face with the reality that nowhere is 100% safe. But I still believe Thailand and particularly Chiang Mai are great places to look at if you are considering leaving the states. Here are some reasons why:
Chiang Mai is affordable. Our studio apartment rents for $240 a month. This includes security, a pool and wifi.
Chiang Mai is a very safe city. Violent crime is almost non-existent. We walk all over the city, evenings, with no concern.
There is excellent medical and dental care here, at very low cost. I recently had a dental cleaning and check up in a state of the art office by an American educated dentist. The cost? $15!
Chiang Mai is a very modern city, with old world charm. The stores have anything you want or need, internet quality is excellent, we see first run movies all the time. There are beautiful ancient sights and historic buildings as well.
Chiang Mai has an international airport. We can go anywhere in the world starting from there.
Chiang Mai has a great 12 Step Recovery community. There are meetings available ever day!
Thailand has a great plan for retirement and there are many immigrants in Chiang Mai from all over the world.
Chiang Mai and all of Thailand has people who are kind, helpful and friendly. There’s a reason Thailand is known as “The Land of Smiles”.
So, if life in the states gets to be too much, please consider Chiang Mai, Thailand. While we’ve not moved here permanently, it’s definitely high on our list.
How about you? Are you considering immigration? What countries are you considering? We’d love to hear from you in the comments section.
Last week I shared on the BOLT philosophy on our use of the word old. This week Kathy and I have teamed up to share some of our specific experiences and lessons learned while traveling. Since the beginning of our relationship we’ve traveled. This was usually done in three week vacation periods at most. We had jobs to get back to and my mother to care for.
As you know, if you’ve been following this blog, everything changed for us in 2015. My mom passed away peacefully in December, 2014. We were then responsible for no one but ourselves. We made a decision to retire from our jobs, get rid of our possessions and live a life of home free travel. We hit the road (actually a cruise ship) on September 21st, 2015 and our adventures began. The following do’s and don’ts are borne of our experiences over the past 10 + months.
Do know your limitations. We have found that in the excitement of visiting a new city we can over schedule sightseeing activities. We have found it best to limit our visits to museums, attractions, shows, etc to one or at most two in a day. More than that we get overwhelmed and exhausted.
Don’t forget to exercise. We are at a point where we must be kind to our bodies. We want them to last us for many more years. Walking is our preferred form of exercise, we walk from 1 to 5 miles daily. It’s also a great way to see the sights and get to know a place. I also try to swim when I can.
Do plan your meals. We prefer to eat a filling lunch. It’s our main meal of the day, usually followed by a nice walk. Remember, lunch specials are often far less expensive for the same thing offered at dinner. Don’t neglect your special diet. If you have dietary restrictions or needs be sure to know how to communicate your them in local language. I’m vegetarian and Kathy doesn’t eat pork. We make sure to know the phrases for this everywhere we go. Sometimes we Google it, in China we had the hotel staff write it out for us.
Do be aware of your surroundings! I was so entranced by the beauty of Ubud, Bali that I was not looking where I was going. Suddenly I found myself at the bottom of a 2 foot hole. Luckily I sustained no serious injury but it could have been the end of a beautiful trip.
Don’t be afraid to wander aimlessly. Some of our favorite adventures came from simply picking a direction and wandering.
Do prepare to get lost. Make sure you have the address of your hotel and it never hurts to use Google maps to show a taxi driver where you want to go.
Don’t be afraid of public transportation. We have had wonderful experiences hopping on public buses, planning train trips and using the city metro systems.
Do be aware of your physical limitations. 8 years ago we thought nothing of taking 12 hour bus rides, sleeping in tents on the ground and back packing. Today our bodies needs a little more gentleness. We choose bus rides that are no longer then 6 hours, we sleep in private rooms with supportive mattresses and our luggage is on wheels. Don’t be afraid to ask for and accept help if you need it. When we arrived at our hotel in Malaysia on our first visit we were dismayed to find out that there was no elevator to service our room on the forth floor. A lovely, and very strong, hotel employee saw us struggling and very kindly carried our bags up. We’ve had great support, suggestions and assistance throughout our travels. Traveling has been just one more affirmation of the loving kindness that abounds in the world.
Do plan days of rest. Traveling can be exhausting. After we have really full days or a day of extended travel we plan R and R time. We relax, endulge in a special meal, watch television, read and rejuvenate.
Thanks for letting us share with you. We’d love to hear from you. What are some of your travel do’s and don’ts? Please share them as well as any questions or comments you have in our comments section.